How to Word Your Wedding Invitations

Every wedding invitation should have name of the host, a request to come to the wedding, couples names, wedding date, start of the wedding, and location. There are so many different wedding invitation wording options out on Google, you just don’t know which is right for you.  Let’s dive into what each line of the wedding invitation means and then decide what the best traditional wedding invitation wording etiquette is right for you.

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Wedding Invitation Wording - How to Word Wedding Invitations

1. Host Line

Traditionally, the bride’s parents are the hosts of the wedding, but nowadays, many people help host the wedding by planning and paying financially.  Or it may be just the couple.  When choosing your host line, make sure to consider all those helping financially, and honor them by including them in the host line.

Is just one set of parents helping with the wedding costs, but you still want to honor the other set?  Don’t worry, there is a way to do that as well and not offend the parents who are paying.  Just let me know and I will make sure to add them into the invitation.

2. Request Line

When you call into your local radio station and ask your favorite DJ to play that song that makes you sing on top of your lungs and do your best car dance while driving to work AND all other cars around look at you and smile!  Well, yes, but for a wedding invitation it is the line that asks your guest to attend your wedding and be part of one of the most joyful days of your lives and making them smile and maybe shed a tear or two.

If you are having your wedding ceremony in a house of worship, then your wedding invitation would read, “request the honour of your presence.” If your ceremony is not taking place in a house of worship, then your wedding invitation would read, “request the pleasure of your company.”

3. Relationship Line

The relationship line states the relationship between the host(s) of the wedding and those getting married.  Traditionally the hosts are the parents of the bride, but anyone can host a wedding.  Many times wedding guests only know one person on the wedding invitation.  The relationship line on the wedding invitation lets the guests know who the hosts are and how they are related to the couple marrying.

If the bride’s parents are hosting, then the relationship line may read, “at the marriage of their daughter.” If the bride’s grandparents are hosting, then the relationship line may read, “at the marriage of their granddaughter.” If both sets are hosting, similar rules would apply with “children” instead of “daughter.”

4.  Name Line – Bride

Etiquette says, the bride’s name comes first and only using her first and middle name since traditionally the bride’s parents were the hosts.  Her surname would be in the host line, so adding it to this line would be redundant.  If the bride’s parents are not listed as the host, then you would use her surname.

5. Joining Word

The joining word is between the names of the couple to be married — to or and. The correct joining word depends on the type of wedding you are having and who is hosting.  Use “and” for Jewish weddings and if the couple is hosting the wedding. For Christian and other wedding ceremonies use “to.”

6. Name Line – Groom

Traditionally, the groom’s full name comes after the bride’s name and joining word.  For a formal affair, his name would also includes his title.  Same-sex couples get to choose the name that comes first, alphabetically, what sounds better, who is hosting, etc.

7. Date & Year Lines

The date is traditionally is not written out numerically, but in full with the day of the week, followed by the day before the month. (Saturday, the twenty-first of July)

The year wasn’t traditionally on the invitation, but now it is on its own line since couples are mailing their invitations out earlier and it makes a great heirloom for future generations.  The year is not capitalized as it is not a proper noun.  There should not be an “and” in the year as it states a decimal is in that place.  Some people will see it as a typo since it is common for people to say “two thousand and nineteen” vs. “two thousand nineteen.” But ask your math teacher and they will agree on no “and.”

8. Time Line

The time line follows the date and is spelled out to describe the hands on the clock, with o’clock following the hour — seven o’clock.  If the time is on the half hour, it can be written as half past or half after — half past six o’clock or half after six o’clock. There are no proper nouns so this line should not be capitalized.

The phrase “in the afternoon” or “in the evening” are not necessary except for weddings starting at 8, 9, 10, and 11.  These time should specify if your wedding is starting in the morning or the evening.  Some couples wish to still include a phrase after the time because it looks better to them.  Please remember “in the evening” does not begin until 6PM.  So wedding beginning at 5 or 5:30PM are still considered “in the afternoon.” 

9. Location

Traditionally, the full spelling of the location, with no abbreviations, is listed on one line and below is the city and state spelled out.  

It is not necessary to include the street address as this is a public place.  If you are having your wedding ceremony at a private residence, then you should include the street address, with no abbreviations, such as 1234 North Main Street.